conilab @coni — 15.08.2026

双非大学两年后,我想和高三毕业生聊聊大学 Two Years Into an Ordinary University, What I Want to Tell Recent High School Graduates

高考只决定了大学生活的起点,不会替你写完后面的故事。两年里,我经历过重新爱上阅读、疯狂实践又不断失败,也逐渐找到了 AI 与运营两条主线。大学没有标准答案,重要的是知道自己在选择什么,并愿意承担选择的结果。

The gaokao only sets the starting point of university life; it does not write the rest of the story for you. Over the past two years, I rediscovered reading, tried and failed at one thing after another, and gradually found two paths worth pursuing: AI and operations. There is no single right way to spend university. What matters is knowing what you are choosing—and being willing to live with the trade-offs.

这两周经历了噩梦般的期末周,目前只剩下最后两门考试,终于能稍微喘一口气了。

也正是在这种喘口气的间隙里,我突然有了一些想法,想和大家聊聊。结合我这两年的大学生活,或许也能给刚高考完、即将进入大学的同学一点启发。

先说一个前提:我的高考分数并没有多惊艳,最后也只是勉强上了一所双非本科。


一、从“还不错”到“勉强够到本科线”

上大学前的那个暑假,我原本计划去学车、打工,但最后都没有做成。那段时间,我更多是在反思自己的中学阶段。

其实我小时候一直算是比较受关注的学生。小学成绩长期在班级前列,几乎每个年级都会拿奖;初中也进过培优班。可到了疫情网课那段时间,我被自己狠狠上了一课。状态松掉之后,最后上了一所比较垫底的普高。

在普高里,我高一高二过得非常轻松,每次晚饭必回宿舍“打电动”,也是非常快乐。因为学校整体本科率不高,我的成绩也能维持在校前十左右,于是很容易产生一种错觉:我好像还不错。

但这恰恰是最危险的地方。

人一旦待在一个低竞争环境里,又不断被“你还可以”的反馈包围,很容易被温水煮青蛙。

直到高三最后阶段,我才开始真正冲刺,最后勉强够到了本科线。

高考出分后,父母嘴上一直安慰我,说这个分数已经够用了,没关系。但我能感觉到,他们眼底里有一种很淡的失望。

那种失望深深刺激到了我。我开始反思:为什么我明明在外界看来一直像个“优秀学生”,最后却只交出了这样的结果?

那时候我也想过复读,但最后放弃了。现在回头看,这是一个非常正确的选择。我很难想象自己顶着更大的压力,再把高三重新过一遍。更重要的是,我当时心里一直有个疑问:除了高考这条路,难道就没有其他路可以走了吗?


二、重新爱上阅读,认知被“刷新”了一遍

2024 年的暑假,我报名了一些知识付费课程,也重新开始培养阅读习惯。

那段时间我才发现,我其实压根不讨厌阅读。我只是看不太下去那些被要求必须读的虚构类书籍。真正开始读非虚构、认知类、商业类书籍之后,我反而看得很爽。

那段时间我的认知提升得非常快,甚至有一种“我要把自己刷新一遍”的感觉。

当然,随之而来的也有另一种窘境:懂了很多道理,生活却未必立刻变好。知道很多方法,也不代表马上能用出来。认知提升会带来兴奋,也会带来焦虑,因为你会突然看见自己和理想状态之间巨大的差距。


三、疯狂实践,也疯狂“失败”

大一刚开学,我开始疯狂实践。

我主动认识老师,主动跟着老师做科研,主动认识优秀的学长学姐,主动探索各种校园活动,也参加了一些竞赛,比如挑战杯。

听起来好像很积极,对吧?

但真实结果其实并没有那么漂亮。

  • 跟着老师做科研、写论文,我做到一半后放弃了。原因很简单:我发现自己对论文科研并没有太强兴趣。也正因为亲自尝试过,我反而更加敬佩那些能长期专注科研、论文、实验的人。

  • 主动认识的学长学姐,大多数也只是加上微信后聊了一两天,后续就慢慢没了联系。

  • 校园活动从一开始的积极参与,变成现在能不去就尽量不去。

  • 挑战杯备赛了一段时间后,团队也放弃了,最后竞选失败。

这些都算不上什么漂亮的结果,但它们对我很重要。因为很多事情只有真正做过,你才知道自己喜不喜欢、适不适合、能不能长期坚持。

大学最宝贵的地方,可能就在这里:它允许你试错。

当然,我也有一些还算不错的实践经历。比如大一通过了四六级,参加英语竞赛拿了校三等奖,大一一年冲刺高绩点,最后拿到了校二等奖学金。又比如一次阴差阳错的机会,让我接触到了运营这个行业,并且一路做到了现在。


四、AI:贯穿这两年的一条主线

这里必须提到一条主线:AI。

从高考后的那个暑假开始,我接触到 AI 工具之后,就对 AI 一发不可收拾。几乎每天都在使用 ChatGPT。从 4o 到 o1,从 o3 再到现在的 GPT-5.5,我算是一直身处其中,也能非常直观地感受到 AI 迭代的速度。

真的太快了。几个月前还很难解决的问题,可能几个月后 AI 就能直接处理。很多过去需要很高门槛的事情,现在普通人也能借助 AI 摸到边了。

因为对 AI 感兴趣,我也开始做了很多相关探索。

在 coding agent 工具真正火起来之前,我就在 2024 年 11 月开始写公众号,记录和分享自己使用 AI 的心得。虽然现在公众号处于半摆状态,但它确实是我探索 AI 的重要起点。

到了 2026 年,Claude Code、Codex 这类工具比较成熟后,我开始尝试构建自己的网页、App 和程序脚本。原本我以为自己对编程没兴趣,结果越做越来劲。

后来,我也发布了自己的第一款 App:FreeGrid。感兴趣的话,可以看我前几篇文章。

从 0 到 1 构建整个 App,再从 0 到 1 跑通上架商店的流程,几乎每一步都离不开 AI 的帮助。对我来说,它真的像一个“贾维斯”。

很多人会焦虑 AI 会不会替代自己的工作。我的体感是,与其一直焦虑,不如先把它用起来。你日常遇到什么问题,就拿去问、拿去试、拿去解决。只有真正用过,你才会形成属于自己的判断。


五、运营:靠谱,是最基础的能力

除了 AI 这条线,我还有另一条主线:运营。

从一次偶然的线上运营开始,到后面参与多个线上运营项目和机会,再到这个暑假顺利拿下一家教育公司的产品运营实习生,我对运营这件事的理解越来越具体。

如果只让我总结一句话,那就是:做一个靠谱的人。

很多机会都来自很小的地方。你把一个很小的动作执行到位,把一件不起眼的事情做好,让对方觉得你靠谱、好沟通、能交付。未来有机会的时候,对方就更容易想到你,也更愿意推荐你。

能力往往就是这样一点点滚起来的。你先从最基础的活开始做,哪怕一开始看起来很杂、很累、很像苦工,但那也是你进入真实世界的一部分训练。

别太早嫌弃那些基础工作。很多人的问题恰恰是,还没积累到能挑活的阶段,就已经开始用“这不值得”“这浪费时间”来劝退自己。


六、大学没有标准答案,但要知道自己在选什么

再说回大学本身。

为什么我大一的时候还很重视期末考试、重视冲绩点,到了大二却变成了“不要挂科就行”的态度?

原因很简单:我找到了更值得自己投入时间和精力的方向。

人的注意力是有限的。你不可能什么都要,什么都抓,什么都做到最好。兼顾太多东西,本身就是一件很难的事。

所以我现在的策略是,前十七周尽量专注做自己的项目、实习、运营、AI 探索,最后一两周集中冲刺期末,保证不挂科,尽量稳住基本盘。

这套选择未必适合所有人,但它目前适合我。

大学里没有绝对标准答案。有人适合卷绩点、保研、考研;有人适合实习、项目、创业;有人适合科研竞赛;有人适合先多试错,慢慢找到方向。

关键是,你得知道自己在选什么,也要愿意承担这个选择带来的结果。

  • 如果你选择高绩点,就要接受它会占用大量时间。

  • 如果你选择实习和项目,就要接受你的学业成绩可能不会那么漂亮。

  • 如果你选择广泛试错,就要接受很多尝试最后看起来都“没结果”。

但只要这些尝试真的让你更了解自己,它们就没有白费。


写给刚高考完的你

如果你是刚高考完的同学,我想告诉你:

高考很重要,但它只是一个节点。

你去到什么学校,当然会影响你的起点;但大学四年怎么过,会很大程度决定你后面的路怎么展开。

不要一进大学就彻底摆烂,也不要觉得没有名校,人生就定型了。

你可以去试。去认识人,去做项目,去参加活动,去实习,去阅读,去写作,去用 AI,去接触真实世界。然后在一次次尝试里,慢慢找到自己的主线。

有些路你走了会发现不适合,那就及时停下来。有些事情你越做越兴奋,那就继续往深处走。

大学最重要的事情,可能并不是把每一条路都走通,而是逐渐知道:什么东西值得你投入,什么东西不值得你消耗。


最后送给大家一句我最近越来越认同的话:

大学里确实有很多道路可以探索,关键在于你自己的选择。更重要的是,你要忠于自己的选择。

The past two weeks have been a nightmare of final exams. I still have two left, but at last I can breathe a little.

In that brief pause, a few thoughts came to me that I wanted to share. Looking back on my first two years at university, perhaps there is something here for students who have just finished the gaokao and are about to begin university themselves.

First, some context: my gaokao score was nothing remarkable. It was only just enough to get me into an ordinary undergraduate university outside China’s elite tiers.


1. From “I’m Doing Pretty Well” to “I Barely Made the Cut”

The summer before university, I had planned to learn to drive and find a part-time job. Neither happened. Instead, I spent much of that time reflecting on my years in school.

As a child, I had always been one of the students people noticed. I ranked near the top of my class throughout primary school and won awards almost every year. In middle school, I even made it into an advanced class. Then remote learning arrived during the pandemic, and I learned a brutal lesson about myself. I lost momentum and eventually ended up at a relatively weak general high school.

My first two years there were easy and carefree. After dinner, I would always head back to the dorm to play video games, and honestly, I had a great time. The school did not send many students to university, yet I could stay somewhere around the top ten. That made it easy to fall under an illusion: perhaps I was doing pretty well.

That was precisely the danger.

When you stay in a low-competition environment and keep hearing that you are “doing fine,” it is easy not to notice how slowly you are falling behind.

I did not begin pushing myself seriously until the final stretch of my last year. In the end, I barely crossed the undergraduate admission line.

When my score came out, my parents kept reassuring me that it was good enough and that everything would be fine. But I could see a faint disappointment in their eyes.

It hit me hard. I began asking myself: if I had always looked like a “good student” to everyone else, why was this the result I had produced?

I considered repeating my final year and taking the gaokao again, but ultimately decided against it. Looking back, that was the right decision. I cannot imagine reliving that year under even greater pressure. More importantly, a question kept returning to me: was the gaokao really the only road available?


2. Rediscovering Reading—and Refreshing the Way I Saw the World

In the summer of 2024, I signed up for a few paid learning programs and began rebuilding a reading habit.

That was when I realized I had never hated reading. I simply struggled with the fiction I had been required to read. Once I turned to nonfiction, books about thinking, and books about business, I found reading genuinely exciting.

My perspective changed quickly during that period. It felt as if I wanted to refresh my entire operating system.

But that excitement brought a different kind of frustration. Understanding more principles did not mean my life improved overnight. Knowing more methods did not mean I could immediately put them into practice. Learning can be exhilarating, but it can also create anxiety, because suddenly you can see the enormous distance between who you are and who you want to become.


3. Trying Everything—and “Failing” at Almost Everything

As soon as my first year began, I threw myself into trying things.

I introduced myself to professors, joined a research project, reached out to students ahead of me, explored campus activities, and entered competitions such as the Challenge Cup.

It sounds impressively proactive, doesn’t it?

The actual results were far less impressive.

  • I worked with a professor on research and a paper, then quit halfway through. The reason was simple: I discovered that academic research did not interest me very much. Having tried it myself, however, I came away with much more respect for people who can devote years to papers, research, and experiments.

  • Most of the older students I reached out to became contacts on WeChat, exchanged messages with me for a day or two, and then gradually disappeared from my life.

  • I went from eagerly joining campus activities to avoiding them whenever I could.

  • My team prepared for the Challenge Cup for a while, then gave up. In the end, we did not make it through the selection.

None of these were attractive outcomes, but they mattered to me. There are many things you can only learn by doing: whether you like something, whether it suits you, and whether you can stay with it over time.

Perhaps this is one of the most valuable things about university: it gives you room to make mistakes.

Not every attempt ended badly. In my first year, I passed both the CET-4 and CET-6 English exams, won third prize in a university English competition, pushed hard for strong grades, and earned a second-class scholarship. And through one accidental opportunity, I discovered the field of operations—a path I have continued pursuing ever since.


4. AI: The Thread Running Through Both Years

There is one central thread I have to mention: AI.

I first encountered AI tools during the summer after the gaokao and quickly became obsessed. I used ChatGPT almost every day. From 4o to o1, from o3 to today’s GPT-5.5, I have followed the changes closely enough to feel the speed of progress firsthand.

It is astonishingly fast. A problem that was extremely difficult only a few months ago may become something AI can handle directly a few months later. Things that once demanded specialist skills are now within reach for ordinary people working with AI.

That interest led me to explore in many directions.

Before coding agents became widely popular, I started a WeChat public account in November 2024 to document and share what I was learning from AI. The account is only semi-active now, but it was an important starting point.

By 2026, tools such as Claude Code and Codex had become much more capable, and I began using them to build websites, apps, and small scripts. I had assumed I was not interested in programming. Instead, the more I built, the more absorbed I became.

Eventually, I released my first app: FreeGrid. If you are interested, I wrote about it in some of my earlier posts.

From building the app from zero to navigating the entire store-release process, AI helped me at nearly every step. To me, it really does feel like having Jarvis at my side.

Many people worry about whether AI will replace their jobs. My experience is that instead of remaining trapped in that anxiety, you should begin by using it. Bring it the problems you encounter in daily life. Ask, experiment, and try to solve them. Only after you have truly used AI can you form a judgment of your own.


5. Operations: Reliability Is the Most Fundamental Skill

Alongside AI, there has been another thread in my university life: operations.

It began with an accidental opportunity to help run an online community. That led to several more online projects and opportunities, and this summer I secured a product operations internship at an education company. Along the way, my understanding of operations has become increasingly concrete.

If I had to reduce it to one sentence, it would be this: be someone people can rely on.

Many opportunities begin with very small things. You execute one minor task properly. You handle something unglamorous with care. The other person sees that you are reliable, easy to work with, and able to deliver. Then, when another opportunity appears, they are more likely to think of you—and more willing to recommend you.

Capability grows by accumulation. You begin with the most basic work, even when it feels miscellaneous, exhausting, or like pure grunt work. That, too, is part of your training for the real world.

Do not dismiss foundational work too early. Too many people have not yet earned the ability to choose only the work they want, yet they are already talking themselves out of opportunities by saying, “This isn’t worth it” or “This is a waste of time.”


6. University Has No Standard Answer—but You Should Know What You Are Choosing

Now, back to university itself.

Why did I care so much about final exams and a high GPA in my first year, only to adopt a “just don’t fail” attitude in my second?

The answer is simple: I found directions that deserved more of my time and energy.

Attention is finite. You cannot pursue everything, hold on to everything, and excel at everything at once. Trying to balance too many priorities is difficult in itself.

My current strategy is to spend the first seventeen weeks of a semester focusing on my own projects, internships, operations work, and AI experiments. Then, during the final week or two, I concentrate on exams—enough to avoid failing and keep my academic foundation intact.

That choice will not suit everyone, but for now, it suits me.

There is no universal right answer at university. Some people should compete for the highest GPA and pursue postgraduate recommendations or entrance exams. Others are better served by internships, projects, or entrepreneurship. Some belong in research and competitions. Others need to experiment broadly before they can find a direction.

What matters is that you know what you are choosing and that you are willing to accept the consequences.

  • If you choose a high GPA, you must accept that it will consume a great deal of time.

  • If you choose internships and projects, you must accept that your transcript may be less impressive.

  • If you choose broad experimentation, you must accept that many attempts will appear to have produced “nothing.”

But if those attempts help you understand yourself more clearly, they were not wasted.


To Those Who Have Just Finished the Gaokao

If you have just completed the gaokao, this is what I want to tell you:

The exam matters, but it is only one point along the way.

The university you enter will certainly influence your starting position. But how you spend the next four years will do much more to determine how the road unfolds from there.

Do not give up the moment you arrive on campus. And do not assume that missing out on an elite university has already fixed the course of your life.

Go and try things. Meet people. Build projects. Join activities. Find internships. Read, write, use AI, and engage with the real world. Then, through repeated attempts, slowly discover the threads you want your life to follow.

Some paths will turn out not to suit you; when you discover that, stop in time. Other pursuits will make you more excited the deeper you go; keep following those.

Perhaps the most important thing about university is not succeeding on every possible path. It is gradually learning what deserves your commitment—and what does not deserve to consume you.


I will end with a thought I have found myself agreeing with more and more:

University offers many roads to explore. The choice is yours. More importantly, you must remain true to the choice you make.